We haven't been able to do much by way of TTWD, due to a house guest. The guest is gone, our house is now ours again (well, ours and a few small creatures that also inhabit it). This night, I was sitting in my chair, relaxing, when Popeye came up to me and held out his hand. Told me we were going upstairs, I needed maintenance. This is usually how we get back into the swing of things.
I have been wanting this, needing it. Waiting patiently for him to embrace his role. Then he does, and I FREAK! Maintenance? What? No! I'm tired, crabby, I was relaxing. I've been good...if I do say so myself, which I do! Yup, that is me. All I want is for my husband to embrace his dominance. Until he does that is! I am a walking contradiction. I am very dominant, and my husband really isn't. Unless I encourage it, and push, then he will but only if I'm submissive first. I want this. I want this even when I think I don't. I want him to take the lead without me feeling like I pushed him to. I am dominant because I feel I have to be (back story there, that may be another post). I don't want to be. I want to be his, his to take, his to lead, the one that trusts him and happily follows. I love making him happy and doing little things for him. But, I want him to push for those things even when I'm not playfully wanting to do it.
So, back to this maintenance night. I decided I better submit, that's what this is all about right? So, I followed him upstairs. He bent me over the bed. Gave me a few smacks with the horse whip thing we have (which I should note - I HATE) but then, that was pretty much it. My lecture was more seductive in tone, and the spanking was more fun and light and breezy. Followed by a little intimate dominance from my husband. Now, that I do love!
So, we are moving forward with really embracing this daily. Although I haven't really been spanked since. But, we've both been sick with that cold that seems to grab hold and last for weeks. We have talked though, and I think we are finally on the same page with this. Looking forward to what the future will hold, spankings and all!
Hi Olive, welcome to blogland! I do love those fun maintenance spankings and your right, who are we to argue, their in charge!
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I will definitely take that kind over the other any day! :)
DeleteI love the energy you are exuding in this post. Glad things went well for both of you :) I also LOVE the intimate dominance. Sooooo goooood :)
ReplyDeleteHopefully I can keep the positive going! Thank you again Sarah for all your help. This group of bloggers is amazing! Hope I can pay it forward one day.
DeleteWelcome Olive. Sure enjoyed this posting. Can truly appreciate the mixed feelings we can have when HOH decides to do something and we are not prepared, ready or willing. Does make for a challenge.
ReplyDeleteIt does. I always want it in my mind so much more it seems. Hoping that changes in time.
DeleteWelcome to blogland, Olive. :) I found I reacted the same way to maintenance in the beginning, and to this day so once in a while. But it's great that you're both talking and getting on the same page. :)
ReplyDelete{{{hugs}}} EsMay
Thanks EsMay, I'm hoping I start to come around more as time goes on. We'll see. I know I like the fun ones, that's never been a question.
ReplyDeleteI have always believed in maintenance spankings, when it is given to a wife, who errs during the week. Yes, a husband can use his hand, paddle, or hairbrush, when a wife needs to be given a light spanking, on her bare bottom. A birch rod, or cane, when a much more severe spanking is needed on her naked derriere.
ReplyDeleteOlive, I have always believed in Maintenance Spankings. Yes, once a week you must accept this corporal punishment ritual, in order to stay a good wife. And as your hubby is head of the household, its 'bottoms up' for you. And I hope 'bare bottoms', so that a blushing bare bottom is the result. Of course depending on your errors during the week. a mild spanking is in order, if you have received few demerits, and a severe spanking, if you have accumulated many demerits.
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